Toxic people, Toxic behavior…
Often I hear: “It’s a toxic environment, it’s a toxic person, they show toxic behavior”. But what is a toxical person? What does this mean, what is it, and even more important, how can you deal with it?
So let’s start to understand what a toxic person is.
A toxic person brings negativity and stress and consumes your energy. Somehow you feel exhausted after meeting that negative person, have a headache, or feel down. You feel less (good), but how and why?
You can recognize toxic people by how they interact or react. A negative friend or colleague often replies by saying no, complains, disrespects, responds rudely, and brings down the spirit.
Do you feel that you are being judged often? Do they point out your mistakes or flaws? Do you think that you are being manipulated? Do you notice that your colleague, friend, or partner changes their behavior, opinion, perspective, or emotional support, depending on what they need to accomplish? Did you ever receive an honest and sincere apology from this person?
I often ask my clients: “Did you set your boundaries? Have you been clear by communicating your limits? Did you say no?”
Toxic people can’t make you feel inadequate, inferior, or incompetent unless you let them. If you can’t walk away from a toxic person, or if you don’t have a choice, minimalize the time and the frequency you meet them. Surround yourself afterward immediately with people who do appreciate and value you!
Don’t let a toxic person become your stressor!
Take care,
Lydia