How To Axe Self-Sabotaging Behaviour
Self-sabotage is a uniquely human behavior.
Many of us sabotage ourselves when we decide we want something by doing everything we can to ensure we don’t get it.
Sound familiar?
Although self sabotaging is a subconscious behavior, we can get a handle on it.
There are many reasons that you might sabotage yourself. It’s a prevalent behavior rooted in fear of the unknown. The idea of greatness may be frightening if you have immersed yourself in mediocrity. Ask yourself if you’re satisfied with your life.
How do I know if I’m sabotaging myself?
Find out why you may self-sabotage:
Control
You might self-sabotage because you need to be in control of your circumstances. Maintaining the status quo is the easiest and most certain way to stay in power.
If you put your all into something, you risk becoming vulnerable. Fear gets the best of you, and you self-sabotage.
Low self-esteem
Do you feel unworthy of greatness?
For whatever reason, you may have decided that happiness ought to be forever beyond your reach. This is a self-limiting idea, and it becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy.
Excitement
Perhaps you undermine your efforts because you’re seeking excitement. You feel the need to remain in a constant state of turmoil to distract yourself from painful memories or alleviate boredom.
If you see yourself in any of these descriptions, fear not: there are steps you can take to put yourself on the path toward self-mastery.
Consider this process for defeating your self-sabotage:
Observe your behavior. First off, it’s essential that you begin to observe yourself. You can effectively do this by creating a self-sabotage journal. Make a journal entry every time you realize that you’ve sabotaged yourself. Describe the setting, circumstances, and final result. Avoid over-analyzing.
Most often, a person’s true intentions are evident in actions rather than words.
Strive to be an impersonal observer in your journal. Eventually, you’ll better understand your motives in certain situations.
Envision success. Keep in mind that success is neither black nor white. Cultivate the habit of envisioning what success means to you and remember how it feels to achieve it. If you do this consistently, you may find that what you envision changes over time.
Begin to see success as an integral part of your future, but realize there will still be challenges. Like everyone else, you’ll still have to pay taxes and have relationship issues.
Let go of the notion of perfection.
As you visualize success, are you still thinking that success equals perfection? If so, it’s time to realize that nobody is perfect.
This is what George Bernard Shaw would refer to as “doublethink.” Perfection and life are mutually exclusive because perfection is unattainable. Your subconscious won’t allow you to achieve success if you associate success with the impossible task of being perfect.
Think of your subconscious as a computer. It doesn’t know how to execute a command called “do the impossible.”
If you associate success with fear, your subconscious will fight you. Why? Because its primary function is to protect you from perceived threats.
Permit yourself to anticipate success with excitement. Perhaps you’ve been sending your subconscious the message, “Don’t give me success!” So, let’s put your self-sabotaging behaviors in the past!
Embrace the good life you deserve by picturing yourself as successful, and then refuse to talk yourself out of going for it. The journey to your ideal life starts now!
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